He's Not Sporty & Reasons for Women to Cheat?
Monday, only slept at 6am from writing Christmas cards. I love doing this activity every year to be reminded to thank my friends for being my friend and... well, call me insecure or kiasu, to make sure they didn't forget me... *smile
Only woke up at 3pm while watching Why Why Love. I haven't exactly start watching this but my sisters are currently watching this so occasionally I'd be watching with them though I didn't watch the start and follow. I'm still catching up on Really Really Like You anyway.
Nuah until 6pm and got ready to go out to Orchard to meet Monkey.
Friends who had known me during my poly years or rather from 1999-2002 when I was still a 17-18 young lady probably heard me mention Monkey lots of time.
他是我在7年前，在我17岁的时候很喜欢很喜欢过的一个男生。
我用‘喜欢’是因为他知道我喜欢他，所以称不上是‘暗恋’。
我对他也不至于是‘单恋’吧？因为我们曾经也试着‘约会’。
当然，在他之前，在读中学的时候，
我也曾经暗恋过许多男生，不过他们都不知道我的存在。
所以，我也没机会跟他们做朋友或讲话。
一切都只是我单方面的花痴和一厢情愿。
而猴子呢，他是我第一个喜欢而且有机会一起出去约会的男生。
因为他，我想，我才有机会感受到‘恋爱’的滋味？
我和他断绝来往是当我发现他有女朋友的时候。
那个时候，他开始对我很冷淡的时候已经心里有数。
其实我很想问却又不敢问，
可是他也没有义务和理由告诉我他有女朋友了，
因为我也不是他什么人。
在其中一场篮球比赛中，他个一个女生手牵手进球场。
那年是2001年，我们也从此没联络。
4年后的2005年，偶然遇见他以前的篮球队友，
后来又和猴子联络上，可是并不是很熟的那种。
现在2007年尾，我们又再次联络。
后来我才知道他和在一起7年的女友分手了。
Monkey arrived carrying big back behind him and carrying big bulky stuffs in his hands. He was in his work wear attire. Felt kinda weird to be seeing him wearing office wear cos when I knew him, he'd be wearing his basketball jersey or sports attire. He's currently doing sales job, meeting client that kind. He just came from gym session.
We chatted a little about his current job while on our way to get the movie tic. He asked where to eat and I said it he doesn't mind, we'll go food court.
我们就这样面对面吃饭。
他还是和以前一样爱 tok kok, 很爱 suan 人。
后来，猴子问我，“你的男朋友有打球的吗？”
我停下碗筷，尴尬的回答，“没有。”
他又问，“那他有玩什么 sports 的？”
我继续吞吞吐吐回答，“嗯。。。他没有玩 sports 的。”
他惊叹的看我，好像不相信我，“你会喜欢不玩 sports 的吗？真的吗？你以前不是很喜欢运动员吗？现在不喜欢了啊？”
我尴尬，便扭许久，觉得好难回答他的问题。
我只好说，“没有啊，我还是很喜欢运动型的阳光男孩啊。只是我男朋友他不爱做运动啦。”
我还以为他不会再问，哪里知道他还继续处处逼人，“那他不是运动员，你可以啊?"
哎哟~ 那，不可以也得可以啊。
他不喜欢，我也不是因为他是运动员才喜欢他的啊。
我本来就喜欢高的男生啊，他做不做运动不是关键啊。
但是。。。 如果是运动员的话，就可以背得起我。
可是。。。 哎呀！问这么多干嘛啦！
我也只是笑笑回答，“哦。。。不一定要运动员啦。高就好。”
我知道，全世界都认为我只喜欢高大威猛的阳光健美型男生。
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We went to catch Heartbreak Kid.
The storyline was quite ridiculous about a man at 40 who thought he met the woman of his dreams. They got married on impulse, just probably after few months of dating. Only then he realised he couldn't really get along with her and realised she has got lots of problems and there were lots of off moments.
While on his honeymoon, he met another woman and he realised he screwed things up... He married the wrong woman and regretted his actions. The Other woman realised he was married and was of course mad at him.
After a few years, he divorced and was single. He decided to look for that Other woman but she is married. He couldn't win her heart and was devastated. Another few years gone by, That woman was divorced & single. They met again but this time, the guy is married with the someone else... sigh... very complicated la.
-
我们离开了戏院。
走出去的时候，他说，“你现在赶快想两个4个字成语，要快啊，不可以想太久。Ok, 赶快。”
我还搞不清楚怎么回事，就随便说了，“身体健康，笑口常开。”
我知道身体健康不是什么成语啦，反正我也想不到。
第一个想到的4个字就是那个了。
他一听到我的答案就一只笑。
我问他干嘛一直笑啦，我的答案很好笑吗？
后来他说，“第一个成语是在说你的人生，第二个实在说你的爱情。就算不是说现在的状况，可是也是你希望的状况。”
我点点头说，“对啊，健康很重要。有了健康就能做很多事。爱情。。。谈恋爱就是要笑口常开，所以人都想谈恋爱啊。”
他说这不是什么心里测验之类的东西，
这只是他的观察，用这种方式就知道人都在想什么。
不错啊。。。懂的观察人的男生。。。加分！
It was a long journey back home. Reach home, nuah in front of TV, bath, blog...chat... sleep...
Tuesday, woke up with the noisiness downstairs. So early, who's kao beh-ing la! Turned out it was my relatives... Aiiiiishhh...
I saw Dearie's sms, "My feeling towards you is still the same and the feeling of wanting to take care of you is still the same."
Awww...
Was just exploring my favourite websites & realised I had bookmarked so many pages. I was trying to organise but I supposed I need a long time to sort them out entirely. I always anyhow bookmark different websites.
Anyway, one of the pages I'd bookmarked was this article on 女人必须偷情的11大理由
En's Conclusion: Marriage is only beneficial to Man
En's thoughts: Ya hor, Man gain a maid/housekeeper to make sure the house is neat & tidy and have proper meals everyday, a babysitter when they have kids, a lover to fulfil sex life. Even if the man is a very rich & successful man, the wife probably has no time to spend? Even if they employ maid, leaving the wife lots of time on her own to do things she like... but where is the love & romance?
En's Conclusion: The Males slack away when they get what they want
En's thoughts: 如果谈恋爱的‘热恋’都这么甜蜜难忘，那就不要‘谈恋爱’好了，来‘热恋’就好了。So, flings are always new excitements, isn't it?
En's Conclusion: Males do have PMS
En's thoughts: Yes, this trait is very 'Scorpio'. Suka suka happy happy will come shower a bit of romance. Suka suka not happy will show unhappy buay song face as if ppl owe him a living like that.
En's thoughts: I don't think our Asian culture will allow that, especially with very traditional parents or background. This cases mainly comes from the Western countries? But then again, divorce rates are rising so maybe this isn't so...
En's thoughts: The Chinese language here is too profound and I don't quite understand the meaning & purpose of this reason being part of the 11 reasons.
En's Conclusions: MCPs shouldn't get married.
En's thoughts: 每个人都有自私的时候，不分男女。But usually most of the time the man can be hard on the woman, imposing his own values and the way how 'males are supposed to be' on his woman. Of cos, these type of males are classified MCP. In the first place, I think MCPs shouldn't even get married if they don't know how to care for their wife. 老婆是娶回去疼爱的，她的父母也是会心疼女儿过得好不好的。
En's thoughts: Males escaping responsibilities from females? Males enjoying the responsibilities the female take up? 这些人渣还算是男人吗?
En's Thoughts: Why is this always the case? From many many generations??? Before getting married, the guy is still tidy & organised, gentle & tender. After marriage, everything change. Why is there love before marraige and it disappeared after that? Tsk tsk...
En's thoughts: Aiyo... I don't even want to comment further... Really is hopeless...
En's Conclusion: One is never enough for the male species
En's Thoughts: I know in reality, not all guys like that but it probably happened in their dreams, having more than 1 wife, leaving like ancient kings with probably thousand of concubines. I'd say the mass media influence the thinking of ppl nowadays. It's probably unfair how one guy can enjoy the attention & affection of many women but if a girl does something similiar, she's labelled 'desperate' 'cheapslut' and all other nasty terms.
I kept doing a lot of surfing when I should be completing my Digital Portfolio but yet I kept nuahing after the grad show.
Because I came to a cross road of not knowing what to do.
I realised I'm not the designer/creative sort.
Sigh, every time, after every 2 years, I'd always come to a point where I'm not sure what I'm doing anymore cos I'm not there. I'm far from THERE.
THERE, is a certain standard of where I want to be, of where I want to stand but... I'm getting furthur & furthur away from THERE...
Is The Law Of Attraction acting up on me again?
ARRggghhhh...
Only woke up at 3pm while watching Why Why Love. I haven't exactly start watching this but my sisters are currently watching this so occasionally I'd be watching with them though I didn't watch the start and follow. I'm still catching up on Really Really Like You anyway.
Nuah until 6pm and got ready to go out to Orchard to meet Monkey.
Friends who had known me during my poly years or rather from 1999-2002 when I was still a 17-18 young lady probably heard me mention Monkey lots of time.
他是我在7年前，在我17岁的时候很喜欢很喜欢过的一个男生。
我用‘喜欢’是因为他知道我喜欢他，所以称不上是‘暗恋’。
我对他也不至于是‘单恋’吧？因为我们曾经也试着‘约会’。
当然，在他之前，在读中学的时候，
我也曾经暗恋过许多男生，不过他们都不知道我的存在。
所以，我也没机会跟他们做朋友或讲话。
一切都只是我单方面的花痴和一厢情愿。
而猴子呢，他是我第一个喜欢而且有机会一起出去约会的男生。
因为他，我想，我才有机会感受到‘恋爱’的滋味？
我和他断绝来往是当我发现他有女朋友的时候。
那个时候，他开始对我很冷淡的时候已经心里有数。
其实我很想问却又不敢问，
可是他也没有义务和理由告诉我他有女朋友了，
因为我也不是他什么人。
在其中一场篮球比赛中，他个一个女生手牵手进球场。
那年是2001年，我们也从此没联络。
4年后的2005年，偶然遇见他以前的篮球队友，
后来又和猴子联络上，可是并不是很熟的那种。
现在2007年尾，我们又再次联络。
后来我才知道他和在一起7年的女友分手了。
Monkey arrived carrying big back behind him and carrying big bulky stuffs in his hands. He was in his work wear attire. Felt kinda weird to be seeing him wearing office wear cos when I knew him, he'd be wearing his basketball jersey or sports attire. He's currently doing sales job, meeting client that kind. He just came from gym session.
We chatted a little about his current job while on our way to get the movie tic. He asked where to eat and I said it he doesn't mind, we'll go food court.
我们就这样面对面吃饭。
他还是和以前一样爱 tok kok, 很爱 suan 人。
后来，猴子问我，“你的男朋友有打球的吗？”
我停下碗筷，尴尬的回答，“没有。”
他又问，“那他有玩什么 sports 的？”
我继续吞吞吐吐回答，“嗯。。。他没有玩 sports 的。”
他惊叹的看我，好像不相信我，“你会喜欢不玩 sports 的吗？真的吗？你以前不是很喜欢运动员吗？现在不喜欢了啊？”
我尴尬，便扭许久，觉得好难回答他的问题。
我只好说，“没有啊，我还是很喜欢运动型的阳光男孩啊。只是我男朋友他不爱做运动啦。”
我还以为他不会再问，哪里知道他还继续处处逼人，“那他不是运动员，你可以啊?"
哎哟~ 那，不可以也得可以啊。
他不喜欢，我也不是因为他是运动员才喜欢他的啊。
我本来就喜欢高的男生啊，他做不做运动不是关键啊。
但是。。。 如果是运动员的话，就可以背得起我。
可是。。。 哎呀！问这么多干嘛啦！
我也只是笑笑回答，“哦。。。不一定要运动员啦。高就好。”
我知道，全世界都认为我只喜欢高大威猛的阳光健美型男生。
-
We went to catch Heartbreak Kid.
The storyline was quite ridiculous about a man at 40 who thought he met the woman of his dreams. They got married on impulse, just probably after few months of dating. Only then he realised he couldn't really get along with her and realised she has got lots of problems and there were lots of off moments.
While on his honeymoon, he met another woman and he realised he screwed things up... He married the wrong woman and regretted his actions. The Other woman realised he was married and was of course mad at him.
After a few years, he divorced and was single. He decided to look for that Other woman but she is married. He couldn't win her heart and was devastated. Another few years gone by, That woman was divorced & single. They met again but this time, the guy is married with the someone else... sigh... very complicated la.
-
我们离开了戏院。
走出去的时候，他说，“你现在赶快想两个4个字成语，要快啊，不可以想太久。Ok, 赶快。”
我还搞不清楚怎么回事，就随便说了，“身体健康，笑口常开。”
我知道身体健康不是什么成语啦，反正我也想不到。
第一个想到的4个字就是那个了。
他一听到我的答案就一只笑。
我问他干嘛一直笑啦，我的答案很好笑吗？
后来他说，“第一个成语是在说你的人生，第二个实在说你的爱情。就算不是说现在的状况，可是也是你希望的状况。”
我点点头说，“对啊，健康很重要。有了健康就能做很多事。爱情。。。谈恋爱就是要笑口常开，所以人都想谈恋爱啊。”
他说这不是什么心里测验之类的东西，
这只是他的观察，用这种方式就知道人都在想什么。
不错啊。。。懂的观察人的男生。。。加分！
It was a long journey back home. Reach home, nuah in front of TV, bath, blog...chat... sleep...
Tuesday, woke up with the noisiness downstairs. So early, who's kao beh-ing la! Turned out it was my relatives... Aiiiiishhh...
I saw Dearie's sms, "My feeling towards you is still the same and the feeling of wanting to take care of you is still the same."
Awww...
Was just exploring my favourite websites & realised I had bookmarked so many pages. I was trying to organise but I supposed I need a long time to sort them out entirely. I always anyhow bookmark different websites.
Anyway, one of the pages I'd bookmarked was this article on 女人必须偷情的11大理由
理由1：
女人本来是想在婚姻生活里面寻找幸福寻求照顾的.
她们为了这一点点爱可以充当厨娘、保姆和情人三个角色.
可是最后的结果却只能是失望。
男人求婚单膝跪地的时候谁看见了，
即使看见了不就那么几秒钟吗.
女人却要为这几秒种的心软付出整整一生。
毕竟，婚姻生活给男人的实惠太多了。
而女人呢，不但失去了从前拥有的一切，
连一点点内心残留的浪漫也都被消耗殆尽了，
这样做女人还不如只恋爱不结婚。
En's Conclusion: Marriage is only beneficial to Man
En's thoughts: Ya hor, Man gain a maid/housekeeper to make sure the house is neat & tidy and have proper meals everyday, a babysitter when they have kids, a lover to fulfil sex life. Even if the man is a very rich & successful man, the wife probably has no time to spend? Even if they employ maid, leaving the wife lots of time on her own to do things she like... but where is the love & romance?
理由2：
热恋3个月之后，他们便永远想不起来送你礼物。
一旦他意识到你已经是 "自己人"了，就会变得越来越健忘，
而且忘记的都是对于你非常重要的事情：
你的生日、你们的结婚纪念日.
En's Conclusion: The Males slack away when they get what they want
En's thoughts: 如果谈恋爱的‘热恋’都这么甜蜜难忘，那就不要‘谈恋爱’好了，来‘热恋’就好了。So, flings are always new excitements, isn't it?
理由3：
你要始终如一地理解他，而他永远不需要解释。
女人不是神仙，再善解人意也不可能事事都想得周到。
但是男人却特别强调理解。
他们会在高高兴兴一起回家之后突然不再理你，
吃饭时突然放下筷子回房睡觉，
在说好陪你逛商场的时候突然一个人跑到休息室抽烟，
而且你永远别指望他们告诉你为什么。
其实答案很简单：
进屋换鞋你没有先递给他拖鞋，
炒菜里又放了他最不爱吃的花椒，
他兜里的钱不够买你看上的衣服。
En's Conclusion: Males do have PMS
En's thoughts: Yes, this trait is very 'Scorpio'. Suka suka happy happy will come shower a bit of romance. Suka suka not happy will show unhappy buay song face as if ppl owe him a living like that.
理由4：
女人应该结两次婚。
你是女人吗？是女人就结两次婚。
因为第一次是为了爱男人结婚，
第二次才是为了爱生活结婚。
En's thoughts: I don't think our Asian culture will allow that, especially with very traditional parents or background. This cases mainly comes from the Western countries? But then again, divorce rates are rising so maybe this isn't so...
理由5：
男人“性”之所至，女人就要翩然以身相许。
在两性交往中，性几乎都被男人们无一例外地放在了重要的位置上。
当他们不顾一切地想和你上床的时候，
女人或者必须表现得乖巧和顺从，或者就立即兴趣盎然地迎合。
一旦表现出倦怠，他们必然耿耿于怀，然后千方百计地找机会报复。
当然也有的男人会假装殷勤地带你上医院体检，
其实他们是想借助于咨询性冷淡来羞辱你.
En's thoughts: The Chinese language here is too profound and I don't quite understand the meaning & purpose of this reason being part of the 11 reasons.
理由6：
男人永远要求女人“这样”，自己却从来不“这样”。
说不上是毛病，却绝对是习惯。
你生病的时候他都没有给你倒过一杯热水，
他回家以后，你却理所当然地要递上一杯热茶。
他可以在下班后和哥们儿谈天说地，喝茶泡吧，
你却必须早早回家迎接他的归来。
他整天不和你说一句话，
你和女友在电话中会招来他的不屑一顾，
当然，如果电话的那一头是异性更是麻烦，
坐在身边的他虽没表现出醋劲大发你却如坐针毡，
把对话都修剪成短平快，再小心看他的脸色。
En's Conclusions: MCPs shouldn't get married.
En's thoughts: 每个人都有自私的时候，不分男女。But usually most of the time the man can be hard on the woman, imposing his own values and the way how 'males are supposed to be' on his woman. Of cos, these type of males are classified MCP. In the first place, I think MCPs shouldn't even get married if they don't know how to care for their wife. 老婆是娶回去疼爱的，她的父母也是会心疼女儿过得好不好的。
理由7：
男人的责任就是逃避责任和享受女人承担的责任。
男人有时候表现得实在无耻，
尽管他们绝大多数人声称他们处于严重的感情危机或婚姻破裂边缘之中，
却依然不会放弃饱餐一顿妻子准备的可口的晚餐，
更不会放弃与情人的每一次约会。
En's thoughts: Males escaping responsibilities from females? Males enjoying the responsibilities the female take up? 这些人渣还算是男人吗?
理由8：
男人都是射手座，上半身是人而下半身是兽，
所以他们表现出来的样子时而像人时而像兽。
至于在女人面前，则结婚之前是人，结婚之后是兽。
结婚之前男人们都是温文尔雅的，他们懂得把自己周身上下打点整洁，
懂得什么时候要轻吻什么时候要热吻，懂得甜言蜜语兼守株待兔，
那时候的他们是绝对的男人，偶尔流露出的野性只能让女人更感被需要。
可是结婚之后呢，衬衫一星期也不知道换一次，领带袜子满天飞，
想要你的时候直奔主题，不想的时候连看都不看你一眼，
你就像跟一只猩猩生活在一块没什么分别。.
En's Thoughts: Why is this always the case? From many many generations??? Before getting married, the guy is still tidy & organised, gentle & tender. After marriage, everything change. Why is there love before marraige and it disappeared after that? Tsk tsk...
理由9：
男人都是活到老色到老的。
你看过那个故事吗，说一个老头和一个青年在街上看漂亮姑娘，
只不过青年面露羞怯而老头面色如常。
于是青年人问老人：你盯着人家姑娘看不觉得脸红吗？
老人笑呵呵地说：她们多美啊！
青年人似有所悟，脸也不红了。
男人都是如此，他们总是觉得喜欢漂亮姑娘是天经地义的事儿，
他们自己都是美女鉴赏家，所以不管镜子里的那个男人有多丑多胖，都有欣赏美的权利。
问题就在于敢不敢看，是不是看看就得了，看完了还想不想别的。
En's thoughts: Aiyo... I don't even want to comment further... Really is hopeless...
理由10：
男人的欲望太多太复杂，这不是一个女人能满足得了的，
每个男人都期望自己成为《鹿鼎记》中的韦小宝，
有7个老婆伴眠，而且个个美貌如花，能文能武，知冷知热。
如果婚姻法不允许，那就干脆来两支玫瑰吧，
一支红玫瑰一支白玫瑰就好。
毕竟，朱砂痣和床前明月光比较家常。
知道为什么松下的电动剃须刀在港台卖得那么好吗？
看看它的广告词：
每个成功男人最少应拥有两个……一个随身伺候，一个家中拥有。
在千万只剃须刀后面有千万次男人会心的微笑，他们以为自己是谁？
En's Conclusion: One is never enough for the male species
En's Thoughts: I know in reality, not all guys like that but it probably happened in their dreams, having more than 1 wife, leaving like ancient kings with probably thousand of concubines. I'd say the mass media influence the thinking of ppl nowadays. It's probably unfair how one guy can enjoy the attention & affection of many women but if a girl does something similiar, she's labelled 'desperate' 'cheapslut' and all other nasty terms.
理由11：
男人像奇迹，你需要他们的时候他们永远不知所往，
而你想一个人的时候，他们却总在那儿。
几十年前就有女人说男人像客厅里的一件沙发，没有总是难看。
可是如果这沙发在你累了的时候不能坐，倦了的时候不能靠，
来人的时候给你难看，让朋友在背地里同情你，不知要他来做什么。
要搬家的时候，岂不更麻烦？
如果女人有了999条离开男人的理由，那么第1000条理由就是你已经不爱他了.
I kept doing a lot of surfing when I should be completing my Digital Portfolio but yet I kept nuahing after the grad show.
Because I came to a cross road of not knowing what to do.
I realised I'm not the designer/creative sort.
Sigh, every time, after every 2 years, I'd always come to a point where I'm not sure what I'm doing anymore cos I'm not there. I'm far from THERE.
THERE, is a certain standard of where I want to be, of where I want to stand but... I'm getting furthur & furthur away from THERE...
Is The Law Of Attraction acting up on me again?
ARRggghhhh...
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